On the plane ride to Houston, I noticed a businessman reading the Wall Street Journal, specifically a section called "Why Chinese Mothers are Superior".
Some of my favorite moments:
"What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences."
"Western parents are extremely anxious about their children's self-esteem....Chinese parents aren't. They assume strength, not fragility..."
" ...if a child comes home with an A-minus on a test, a Western parent will most likely praise the child. The Chinese mother will gasp in horror and ask what went wrong."
"Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they're capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits and inner confidence that no one can ever take away."
I can understand the aforementioned "Chinese model", and I have witnessed the soft parenting of Westerners. However, I don't agree that parents always know best; it's important to listen to our voices. But I think it's admirable to assume such strength and capability in us. I.e., if you like swimming and debate, go ahead...but you better work hard and be fucking good at it.
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